I'm All Out Of Fuck's
This blog post just rolled off the top of my head this morning, there's no real trail as a result, I have these waffley posts from time to time that I just need to get out of my head, take from it what you can, there's definitely 2 or 3 threads here blended together, something for everybody.
I've never really been that bothered about anybody else's opinion of me. Everybody gets that teenage identity crisis where you try to 'find yourself', but I've always been pretty comfortable with myself and as a result pretty much pleased myself in all I've done in life without too much concern for how others would react.
Ever since I started my photography degree course, which taught me to look at the world differently, in a more objective way, I explored fashions, trends, attitudes and people in general. From various alcohol and chemical induced states I learnt to gradually give less and less of a Fuck, something I to this day am grateful to that course for (I have to find some positive...as it never helped me get a job!!). This course really got me thinking about more areas of life that really should be treated with a don't give a f*ck attitude.
Rules are there to be broken! (or at least bent!)
Everything new comes from somebody going against the grain and swimming up stream!
YOU SHOULD REALLY TRY TO NOT HURT ANYBODY ALONG THE WAY, YOURSELF INCLUDED!
Living a life where you try as much as possible to not give a f*ck as much as possible, has really served me well!
I just need to explain in a broader sense the 'not giving a f*ck concept!'
It's not meant as a term of negativity or reckless behaviour. In many ways it's a contradiction in terms. Selectively applying it to all appropriate situations in a variety of ways...
You have just entered into a new relationship with somebody...
Love that person 'like you don't give a f*ck' about the consequences of the relationship going bad...you risk getting hurt but by investing everything you have you also risk receiving everything also...
You hate your boss... everyday your boss is on your case, he thrives on his little power trips that he gets to exercise over you on a daily basis... keep turning up to work 'like you don't give a f*ck' don't gift the little w*nker the enjoyment of seeing that he get's to you...play the waiting game and he'll either move on up in the company from all the arse kissing he does, or you yourself will be outta there soon on to bigger and better things!
So you see the concept is tweaked depending on the situation, to leave you with the most positive of outcomes in all events.
I'm getting better and better at not giving a f*ck, the more I practise! I've actually noticed a distinct shift in myself over the past couple of years, most notably since turning 30.
I now give even less of a f*ck than ever before!! About even more stuff!! and I'm happier than I have ever ever been! I coined the mindset as being 'OUT OF F*CK!'
I care that little about things out of my control and all life's little trivialities that I couldn't muster a tiny handful of f*ck to give it if I had to...
Live the good life where possible...
Be a good person... there's already way too many pricks/dicks/tossers and general arseholes populating the planet! Be decent!
But stop worrying so much! About all different things, what the world thinks of you? Where you belong? If you're happy with you.. that's enough!
Nobody will ever do a better job of being you than you will do yourself!
Always do what you want to do! When you want to do it! (law permitting!)
Accept the consequences for all of your actions!
If you like to party? Go party! I will be doing! Drink till you pass out if that's what you want to do! In fact I'm personally gonna think F*ck it! on this very point every so often myself! I enjoy it!! And I'll be back in the gym monday so for Saturday night, I'll party like I don't give a F*ck!
Be decisive! Move towards what you desire in body, mind, soul, emotionally and physically with the majority of your actions every day, but don't be afraid to stop along the way, for a swift half, to smell the roses or whatever the pit stop may contain for you!
Be somebody with purpose! Who has a reason for being, a reason for doing! Even if it's simply 'F*ck it! I want to!'.
Fill your days with experiences!
Wake up before the sun!
Sleep in the middle of the day!
You're actions need to always reflect your aspirations! And if they do!, there's never any reason to question, you should already be getting on with doing!
Somebody asks a question of you? Make sure you have an answer for everything! Try to never be unsure of where you are! You are where you are in life because of decisions you have or haven't made! You have the power to change anything about everything in relation to yourself!
Go out into the world not giving a f*ck about the negative around us, from people's opinions of us to people's behaviour towards us,
Just get on with asserting ourselves on the world! Trying to be somebody...anybody...that opposes the play-it-safers, the creatures of the common place, the slaves to the ordinary all scared to step over the line of conformity!
Say 'what the hell!'
You can never really know, without first giving it a real go!
And if all this has been to you today is random caffeine fuelled hypey waffle talk, the only thing I wanted to hit home was from experience, as soon as you can....
RUN THE HELL OUT OF FUCK!
...You don't need to carry it around with you and you sure don't need to be giving as much of it as most people do!
TRAIN...DANCE...SING...LIVE...SMILE...WORK...LAUGH...LOVE...BE...TALK...SLEEP...EXPERIENCE...ALL LIKE YOU DON'T GIVE A F*CK! CARE ABOUT THE IMPORTANT POINTS THAT YOU REALLY SHOULD DO, BUT ALL THE SMALL PRINT AND ALL THE TERMS AND CONDITIONS...YEAH F*CK THAT STUFF!! (IN THE NICEST POSSIBLE WAY)
I'M ALL OUT OF F*CK THESE DAYS!! AND YOU KNOW WHAT....? I DON'T MISS IT ONE BIT!